How have our culture — and we ourselves — understood and expressed issues of sexuality across the generations? Join Tom, Ryan, and Marshall for a conversation on these varying generational perspectives:
Tom and Ryan as millennials and Marshall as a baby boomer. We discuss how the generations have addressed sexuality and “coming out” over the decades, accessibility to pornography and promiscuous outlets, the “gay” identity and male-on-male cuddling, and the biggest thing in culture we’d like to see change with the next generation.
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Enjoy our GENERATIONS episode below! And don’t forget to comment: what generation do you hail from? How have you experienced sexuality and “coming out” from within your generational context? What are your thoughts on the gay label, cuddling, and anything else discussed this episode? Also: do you have any guest traditions at your home you’d like to share? Pull up a chair, and tell us a story.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- MANLY MONDAY video featuring Richard’s suggested books on male physical touch in generations past: Why I Don’t Try Anymore
- Tom’s posts
- Ryan’s posts
- Marshall’s posts
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Jonevan,
Thanks for your thoughtful comments on this podcast!
There are many millenials to whom I would love to pass the baton, but I’m not finished yet myself!
I agree that many millenials are non-committal, but not all. I see many like Tom and others at YOB who value loyalty in friendship. They don’t demand it from others, but they appreciate it when it is freely given.
One thing that stands out among millenials is authenticity. The guy you are mentoring won’t consider marriage to a woman because he would feel fake if he was married but didn’t genuinely love her the way he should. As you pointed out many millenials are free from ageism. That has been a great blessing to me!
I haven’t listened to the podcast yet so I’m not sure if the passing the baton idea is there but it’s not helpful. It’s true each generation must learn Christ anew for themselves and that responsibility lies with the generation ahead of them. But being a testimony of Christ, having something vital that will mean life to others is not an issue of age. That never ends.
Caleb comes to mind. “…behold, I am this day eighty-five years old. I am still as strong today as I was in the day that Moses sent me; my strength now is as my strength was then, for war and for going and coming. So now give me this hill…” I love that. It’s not about an old guy sticking around too long. It’s not about him, but what the Lord is in him.
Even David, age wasn’t the reason he wasn’t to build the temple.
“You have shed much blood and have fought many wars. You are not to build a house for My Name, because you have shed much blood on the earth in My sight.”
Brother, hope this is the encouragement it’s meant as.
Bluzhawk,
Caleb has always inspired me! I don’t want to stop fighting the battle to see God’s purpose accomplished. There is plenty of room for millenials to fight alongside me. I am not going to stand in their way!
Amen Marshall. To go on with God and have a fighting heart to finish well is seeing God’s purpose fulfilled in one’s life, to be like Jesus. You my friend are a great testimony of that.
“Stories are verbal acts of hospitality.”
Quote fits YOB, in honor of Eugene Peterson, 85, who wrote The Message and so much more. He’s in hospice today, his son says he has maybe 3 days to live.
I love this, and I have loved Eugene Peterson. It reminds me of a quote I heard from a Revoice speaker (I just googled it and apparently it’s from a children’s book by Barry Lopez) “The stories people tell have a way of taking care of them.” When a talkative person embarks on a long-winded story that I may have already heard a few times, I remind myself that stories are about so much more than information transfer!
That’s a goodhearted quote Ryan. Too often we try to get to understanding life through explaining things when often stories have more clarity and almost always more heart.
Jonevan,
I certainly don’t know your mentee the way you do. It sounds like he might have commitment issues, I was just generalizing based on the millenials I know.
You mentioned that he is not “chaste”. If by that you mean that he keeps having sex with guys, then he is not ready to marry a woman. There is good reason to suspect he will not be faithful in marriage. Also, to marry he needs to find a woman who can deal with his issues. It may be hard to find someone like that.
I am sure you would agree that his relationship with God is the most important thing to focus on right now. He needs to repent and ask for God’s help to consistently obey Him out of love.
Kirkdaniel, bluzhawk, and others,
As I said to Jonevan, I do believe definitions are important! These words and phrases are too ambiguous due to changing meanings: “gay, celibate partnership, sexual minority, non- traditional family, queer, cuddling, etc”. I prefer not to use these words because they are too easily misunderstood, so I will take time to explain what I mean instead of summarizing in one unclear word.
Thanks, Marshall. That seems like the best thing to do.
Thanks for your comment, Jonevan, and I appreciate your willingness to “pass the baton,” so to speak!
What an interesting observation regarding mentorship! I do see many of my peers placing a high value on mentorship, but it never occurred to me there might be a big generational difference there.